what brings you here

Life can bring unexpected twists and turns. We usually notice the big ones. Singular events, such as meeting a partner or having a child, but also losing someone, or coming close to death ourselves. They are obvious events, and their immediate, unmitigated impact forces us to think about them. The paths they create are noticeable and more or less obvious, even if unwelcome.

But other life-turns sneak up on us quietly on their tip toes, barely noticeable. They come as little disappointments here and there, disillusions, set-backs, or compromises that are no big deal on their own, but which cause us to feel confused, angry, under-achieving, perhaps even bored with the monotony of our lives. These small shifts accumulate over time until seemingly out of nowhere, we don’t recognise ourselves anymore, or the lives we are living.

And then suddenly, there we are. Sitting on the proverbial fence, watching life pass us by. Yes, we’re living a life. Just not the one we expected or wanted. And all too often we don’t really know what to do about it.
Admitting we’re on the fence also feels shameful because, strictly speaking, everything is “fine”. We tell ourselves there is no reason to complain, that it is ungrateful to do so, and we should shut up and get on with it.
Often, we’re so caught up in trying to work out how or where we – each of us – went ‘wrong’ that we don’t even notice that there are others – many of them – on the fence with us. All somehow wishing for life to be different, but not knowing how to change.
But what if there was a proven way to change? Not in an instructive, formulaic and one-size fits all kind of way, but through a process which allows for individual nuance and uniqueness, independent decision-making and deep respect for our differences, whilst leveraging the power of female collaboration? A methodology which supports you in moving from the fence to living well beyond it, the way you choose.
A process that acknowledges that how you feel now, and the place you find yourself in for the moment, is just that. A place, where you are right now. A philosophy that believes you are capable of the change you’re too exhausted, or reticent to speak. A framework that shows you how to get down from the fence and feel like living again instead of just existing. Well, that’s what off-the-fence offers.

What we long for, in essence, is a meaningful life brimming with purpose; one that we live wisely.

Whatever a happy life is, it is uniquely individual. Yet we are not alone in believing that a happy life is one that has meaning and purpose. We, each of us, long for the chance to at least spend some of our time in support of what actually matters to us.
We hope we have enough wisdom to distinguish between what is truly meaningful to us and what are distractions; to stay in the present and to enjoy the moment we have, rather than postponing our life to sometime in the future. A life in which we dare to dream, to feel in colour, to find and create joy in the circumstances and relationships we live in.

The crux is that we are often only woefully skilled in thinking about what truly matters to us, in working through the emotional impacts of our “no big deal” disappointments, in separating what we expect of ourselves from other people’s opinions and expectations, in speaking our individual truths in a way that lets us be heard, in dealing with the fall out of “not being liked”, in seeing and holding on to our agency in difficult situations, and in supporting our sense of self and our self-confidence.

off-the-fence steps

Off-the-fence seeks to provide a framework not just for handling life, but for living it in full technicolour.

Through powerful coaching and tools you will explore how and where to steer your life. More than anything, this programme will feed the spark of your desire to change until it has grown into a flame. You will lay down foundations which you will return to again and again as you live and change. Because we don’t believe in a superficial fix, or a one size fits all approach, we go deep and aim high.

The 3 step off-the-fence process

By the end of your journey, you will be making decisions from a different place, taking action in the knowledge of all your options, and shaping a life you truly want. You will have greatly increased your sense of agency and re-balanced your responsibilities. You will have developed a fresh and nuanced view of how to relate to others and your world. You will feel alive and liberated.

If all that sounds like work, it is. Transformational change involves commitment and dedication. The program is both deep and broad because we believe in the power of the steps, and of the power of individualised coaching in a group setting to create lasting change. But, most of all, we believe in your innate power to bring about the changes you seek in your life with profound support.

If all that still sounds exciting to you because you are committed to expanding your life in a deep and meaningful way, come join us! We are looking forward to meeting you and can’t wait to see how you choose to have your life unfold beyond the fence.

living off-the-fence

off-the-fence modules

Are you curious and would like to know more details about the steps? Check out our off-the-fence course modules.

how off-the-fence works